Once upon a time, seemingly in a land far away, airlines served meals to passengers on all but the shortest of flights. Today, unfortunately, meal service is limited to overseas and charter flights, to some smaller domestic airlines, and to business class (although I have no first-hand knowledge of the latter).
When the meal arrives, the effect is almost immediate. The noise level aboard increases. Passengers who had sat in silence from the time they boarded begin to talk to each other.
Food is a catalyst that encourages conversation. Passengers share information about themselves, their work and their interests, with the strangers in the next seat who they had studiously ignored just moments earlier. People feel comfortable talking with those with whom they are dining, even when they are using plastic cutlery to eat food from plastic containers delivered on plastic trays.
This phenomenon, the willingness to share with others, is not confined to airplane cabins. It could happen anywhere people eat together, including in your workplace.
Sharing a meal or a cup of coffee creates a relaxed atmosphere, in which people will talk about themselves and their interests. It creates an opportunity to get to know others as individuals—if you are there to hear what is being said. You will never learn about the people with whom you work if you avoid the lunchroom, remain at your desk during breaks, or leave the building every noon hour.
They may describe their hobbies, family, reading habits and career goals. They may refer to the coffee shops they frequent; to their favourite sports teams, celebrities, authors and travel destinations; and to their food preferences. What you learn can be used to recognize individuals in Appropriate ways, reflecting their interests and passions.
What happens in your workplace? Has food become a catalyst for conversation? What have you learned about individual staff members as a result of sharing a meal with them? How did (or could) you use this knowledge to recognize people in Appropriate ways?